Mama SRL

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]I[/edgtf_dropcaps]n vremurile obisnuite, sau in vietile noastre inainte de pandemie, aveam o rutina zilnica destul de simpla: se trezea copilul, serveam micul dejun, ii dadeam vitaminele, apoi era dus la cresa, noi mergeam la birou, apoi beam o cafea la birou, in cazul meu ceai, palavre, munca, pranz, munca, luat copilul de la cresa, mers acasa, iesit afara la joaca cu copilul, apoi bagat copilul la culcare, curatat casa, apoi somn. Rutina zilnica se intampla in zilele de lucru. Weekendurile erau destul de asemanatoare cu exceptia muncii si a suetelor. Zilele astea avem un program destul de asemanator, totusi mi-am ajustat rutina zilnica in functie de programul copilului ceea ce m-a transformat intr-o persoana extrem de calma si echilibrata cum nu am vazut vreodata. Cea mai buna parte despre aceasta perioada este ca nu mai irosim 1 sau 2 ore in trafic pana la birou sau pana la si de la cresa. Acum sunt doar la dispozitia lui. Ma trezesc si ii prepar laptele si in timp ce el il bea, eu apuc sa imi fac tabieturile de dimineata. Apoi il schimb si il imbrac de joaca. Ii pregatesc rapid ce va fi masa sau gustarea lui pe parcursul zilei: asta dureaza cam 1-1,5 ore. Apoi ma pregatesc de iesit cu el la plimbarea de dimineata si asta e ocazia mea de exercitiu fizic in timp ce el ma intreaba intr-una despre vehiculele pe care le vede prin cartier din sezutul caruciorului sau tricicletei lui. Pe plan local, in Romania, avem aceasta problema cu parcurile inchise pe perioada starii de urgenta. Este o problema majora! Cum le explici copiilor ca nu se pot duce in locurile dedicate lor? Fara loc de joaca el gaseste ca strada este o atractie senzationala. Asa ca vrea sa se duca sa se plimbe fix in mijlocul strazii si sa alerge dupa masini. Care e cea mai buna cale de stapanire a unui copil mic in aceasta situatie? De ce nu poti tine batranii in case pentru propria lor protectie si sa permiti parintilor sa isi duca in mod responsabil copiii in parc? Macar sa ii lase sa se plimbe pe gazon in libertate. Va dati seama cum e sa il tot tragi de manuta sa nu se duca in strada? Adica intregul sens al plimbarii copilului este ca el sa isi dezmorteasca picioarele si sa inhaleze un pic de aer curat, iar parcurile ii permit o mica portie de asa ceva, nu strada, oricat de goale ar fi strazile zilele astea. Locuiesc momentan in oras nu pentru ca imi place ci pentru ca asta e cea mai buna optiune. Am ales sa stam aici pentru ca in perioada acestei stari de urgenta nu aveam alte optiuni. Adica unde gaseam eu un loc care sa fie potrivit pentru o familie cu un copil mic – o casa cu gradina si ceva animale domestice, ceva cu magazine in apropriere si magazin cu accesorii pentru copil? Deci izolarea in oras este o lupta continua pentru plimbarile cu copilul daca nu folosesc mijloace ajutatoare cum este caruciorul sau tricicleta. A, si weekendurile nu exista cand ai un copil mic. Presupun ca cei care au ferma sau gospodarie cu animale se simt la fel ca mamele cu norma intreaga: niciun animal nu consuma mai putin doar pentru ca e weekend astfel ca programul ramane la fel.

Revenind la rutina noastra zilnica: trebuie sa ma intorc rapid de la plimbare si sa ii pregatesc pranzul – pune repede supita sau ciorbita pe masa. Dupa servirea masei doarme vreo 2-3 ore. In acest timp apuc si eu sa lucrez ceva: zilele astea asta inseamna sa fac un buget, sa pregatesc o prezentare, sa dau ceva telefoane pentru costurile necunoscute (e destul de greu sa mai estimezi ceva zilele astea cum nimeni nu stie ce se va intampla cand se incheie starea de urgenta si care vor fi urmarile), mai sun cate un prieten, mai scriu ceva, imi mai promovez scrierile, invat ceva in plus despre a fi mama sau bucatar, mai fac curatenie sau chiar calc hainele de vara (am realizat ca am prea multe haine, asa ca m-am gandit ca daca o sa le calc imi va fi mai usor sa vad ce imi place inca sa pastrez si ce trebuie sa plece). Si apoi dupa 2-3 ore se trezeste si mai am cam 1 ora la dispozitie sa mai fac ceva prin bucatarie in timpul in care el isi serveste gustarea de dupa-amiaza si se mai joaca un pic. Apoi iesim la plimbarea a doua. Si cand ne intoarcem inca mai are energie sa se joace. Ii place sa mai petreaca si niste timp cu tati caci pana la ora aia a terminat si el treaba sau doar a luat o pauza. In timpul asta apuc si eu sa mai fac ceva treaba prin casa si sa pun ordine in dezordinea facuta peste zi. Uneori chiar si rufele murdare imi necesita atentia si acesta e un moment prielnic sa pun masina de spalat rufe in actiune. De obicei pe la 8:30/9:00 seara il bag in pat unde ii citesc o poveste si apoi in functie de starea lui ii mai cant un cantecel, ne jucam impreuna cu muzicuta (este noua lui pasiune), se joaca cu masinuta in pat sau adoarme direct. Si apoi imi mai raman cam 2-3 ore de navigare, scris si citit. Apoi adorm in cele din urma. Slava Domnului ca e ziua atat de scurta! Altfel as mai fi gasit ceva de facut.

De cand a inceput aceasta izolare mi-am facut ordine in casa, am pus ceva ordine in cotloane care erau nedeschise de ceva timp, am citit o carte, am gatit atatea feluri de mancare, am invatat sa fac curatenie in mod eficient. Cartea de fapt a fost una usurica, dar sunt fericita ca am reusit sa termin una. Sunt destul de sigura ca in timpul rutinei mele normale nu as fi reusit nici macar asta. Ca sa fiu sincera, daca stau sa ma gandesc mai bine, am nevoie de inca doua luni ca sa imi pun viata si somnul inapoi pe un fagas normal. Pe de alta parte inca doua luni m-ar face sa devin o mama activa si mai eficienta. Zilele trecute am petrecut o zi cu parintii mei si la finalul zilei am picat lata la 21:00 inaintea copilului. Nu a fost o zi speciala, dar am avut oameni cu care sa interactionez, si am simtit ca mi-am folosit energia pe care de obicei o folosesc intr-o zi de munca la birou in pline pregatiri de proiect. Aceasta situatie cu virusul este o oportunitate pentru multe afaceri sa isi regandeasca modalitatea de lucru. Procesul meu de lucru va fi cu siguranta diferit. Sunt foarte curioasa sa vad cum se vor schimba lucrurile. Si in acelasi timp sa continuu sa petrec timp cu fiul meu. Am nevoie sa organizez tehnologia sa imi deserveasca cat mai bine scopurilor pentru a avea grija mai mult timp de fiul meu si sa imi pastrez si sanatatea mentala. Chiar cred ca folosind o buna disciplina de sine, orice mama care sta acasa poate sa si munceasca. Deci cred ca daca exersez un pic mai mult pot face ca stilul meu de viata sa se potriveasca perfect in acest nou program si, daca imi prioritizez sarcinile, pot face si mai multe cu viata mea dupa aceasta perioada.

Tot acest efort sa fac lucruri sa se intample in timpul scurt pe care il am la dispozitie, m-a pus pe ganduri daca nu cumva cineva are alta rutina sau chiar mai buna zilele astea. Sunt curioasa: care e rutina voastra in zilele normale si ce faceti zilele astea?

Daily Routine

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]D[/edgtf_dropcaps]uring our regular daily lives, or life as we knew it before the pandemics, we would have a pretty simple daily routine: kid would wake up, breakfast is served and vitamins taken, then he would get dropped into daycare, we would drive to office, then have coffee at the office, tea in my case, chitchat, work, lunch, work, pickup kid, go home, go play outside with kid, take the kid to bed, cleanup the house, go to sleep. Daily routine would be the weekdays routine. Weekends would be pretty similar except the work and the coffee and the chitchat. These days we have a pretty similar schedule, still I have adjusted my daily routine around the baby’s schedule which makes me into such a calm and balanced person like I have never seen. The best part about this period is that we do not waste 1 or 2 hours in traffic going to the office or dropping the kid anywhere. Now I am all available for him. I am waking up and preparing his milk and while he drinks it I get to do my morning routine. Then I change and dress him for play. I quickly prepare what needs to be his food or snacks for the day: this takes about 1-1,5 hours. Then I get myself ready to take him out for the morning stroll and this is my chance to do my power walk while he asks me about all the vehicles in our neighborhood’s streets from his comfy tricycle or his stroller. Locally in Romania we have this current problem with parks being shut down. This is a huge problem! How do you explain to the kid that he cannot go to those places? Without his playground he finds the street to be a brand new attraction. So he wants to walk straight into the street to chase the cars. What is the best way to handle a small kid in the street? Wouldn’t it be better to keep the old people indoors for their own safety and allow parents to responsibly take their kids to the park, at least to let them wonder around on the green grass without holding their hands? Can you imagine what it’s like to keep pulling his hand to keep him away from the street? I mean the whole point of taking the kid out is to allow him to stretch his legs and to breathe some fresh air, so the parks are allowing for a certain amount of that, not the street, no matter how empty the streets are these days. I am not currently living in the city because I like it. I do that as I really need to live here as long as the lockdown gives me little choice in a different place. I mean a place that could still be suitable for a family with a small kid – a house with a garden and some domestic animals, some nearby shops and accessible baby shops. So the lockdown in the city is a constant hustle for the baby walks unless we use the tricycle or the stroller. Oh, and weekends do not exist when you have a small kid. I guess the people having some domestic animals and a farm would feel the same way as a full time mom: no animal is eating less on weekends and the schedule is the same.

Getting back to our routine: I have to quickly come back from the stroll and prepare his lunch. He has a very nice nap of 2-3 hours after lunch. During his nap I get to do some work: these days this means making a budget, preparing a presentation, making some calls about some unknown costs (pretty hard to estimate anything these days since no one really knows what will happen after the lockdown ends), saying hi to a friend, writing something, promoting my writing, learning more about being a good mother or a good chef, cleaning up or even ironing the summer clothes (I just realised I have too many clothes, so I figured if I am ironing them it will be easier to see what I love to keep or what needs to go). And then 2-3 hours later he wakes up and I have about 1 hour left of doing some stuff in the kitchen while he plays a bit and eats his afternoon snack. Then we go for the afternoon walk. And when we return he still has some energy to play. He enjoys some daddy time as he has finished by then his work or at least stopped for a break, and I get to do my house work and put some order into the mess made over the day. Sometimes even laundry needs my attention so now it’s a good time to put the washing machine into action. Usually at 8:30/9:00PM I get him to bed where I read him a bear book and then depending on his mood I sing a song, we play together his harmonica (it’s a new passion), he plays with a car in his bed or he simply falls asleep. And then I am left with 2-3 hours to navigate, write or read. Finally I fall asleep. Thank God the day is so short! Otherwise I would still find something to do.

Since this lockdown has started I have cleaned up the house, put some order into corners which were left unattended for quite some time, read a book, cooked so many dishes, learned to make the most efficient house cleaning. The book was actually a simple one, but I am happy I have managed to finish even one. I am pretty sure during my life before I wouldn’t have accomplished so much. To be honest, if I come to think of it I need two more months to put my life and my sleep back into order. On the other hand the two more months would actually allow me to get used to being a more efficient working mom. The other day I spent one day with my parents and at the end of the day I simply fell asleep at 21:00 before the kid. It wasn’t a special day, but having people to interact with, I felt like I used the energy I would normally use during a full office day during a project preparation. This whole virus situation is an opportunity for many businesses to rethink their way of working. My way of working will definitely be different. I am so curious to see how. And in the same time I want to keep spending time with my son. I just need to organize technology best as possible to keep my son under constant care and my sanity going. I truly believe with good self discipline even stay at home moms would manage to do some work. So I guess if I practice some more I can actually make my life fit best into this new schedule and if I prioritize my stuff I could end up doing more with my life even after the lockdown.

All this struggle to make stuff happen in the short time I have, made me think that maybe others may have a different and better daily routine for these days. I am curious: what is your normal day routine and what do you do these days?