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Droguri si medicatie

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De cand s-a nascut fiul meu incerc sa stau mereu aproape de el si sa il urmaresc dar sa nu il sufoc. Imi place cand fiul meu reuseste sa faca ceva singur si apoi are acea stralucire in ochi si se aplauda singur.  Simt o fericire de mama. Si apoi ma gandesc la toate pericolele care il pandesc. Incerc sa imi dau seama ce trebuie sa il invat ca sa decida matur. Unul dintre pericole mi se pare consumul de droguri.

Presupun ca parintii mei se ingrijorau doar sa nu devina bunici devreme. Asta cred ca nu ar fi asa deranjant zilele astea. Sunt o mama batrana oricum. Cumva cred ca aceasta idee ar salva cei 15 ani irositi de mine in construirea unor asteptari fase, alta conversatie pentru alta zi ploiasa. Asta e generatia mea. Si tot generatia mea are putini oameni care consuma droguri in mod constant. Poate le e teama sau poate ca simt ca anarhia inca se intampla in jurul lor, dar solutia nu a fost gasita in chimicale. Eu personal nu am incercat niciodata niciun drog si nici nu am avut curiozitatea vreodata. Nu pot spune ca am avut un motiv anume. Doar ca am fost mereu super fericita sa nu am nevoie de “ajutor”.

Dar astazi? Se pare ca ei primesc mult mai mult ajutor, au mult mai multe distractii decat aveam noi si totusi le lipseste ceva. Si de aceea nu ma pot abtine sa nu ma gandesc la pericolul pe care il reprezinta drogurile.

Mama a gasit sa imi dea voie sa incerc sa fumez cu ea ca sa nu fiu tentata de straini. In ciuda acestei metode abordate, am fumat o perioada lunga. Pana intr-o zi cand am realizat ca pot trai fara fumat si sa fiu in continuare fericita. Sunt chiar mai fericita ca nu fumez. Si asta de doi ani de cand am renuntat si simt ca intreaga mea viata este mult mai buna fara tigari. Deci cum ai putea sa iti educi copilul sa nu incerce ceva pentru care nici tu nu ai argument ca ar fi nocive? Adica da, am un argument bun in oamenii pe care i-am vazut pierduti in consumul de droguri, dar ei ne pot arata atatea vedete care canta, danseaza sau joaca si care consuma. De fapt cum ii spui copilului si ca Pepsi sau Coca-Cola sunt prea bune in comparatie cu drogurile care ii sunt la fel de accesibile?

Uitandu-ma in urma la anii copilariei cand m-am dus la toaleta scolii in timpul orelor si am gasit doua colege mai mari care consumau si am refuzat sa ma alatur distractiei. A fost o decizie luata pe cont propriu fara ca cineva sa imi fi povestit ce e bun sau rau in droguri. Si eu imi urmez de cand ma stiu instinctul. Am ales si un partener in “crima” care sa fie ca mine si sunt foarte mandra de asta. De ce? Ei bine, pentru ca simt ca rezonez cu cineva care a facut aceeasi alegere ca mine desi a crescut in alt mediu. Inseamna ca gandim la fel. Sper ca si fiul nostru sa faca alegeri intelepte fara prea multe intrebari “De ce?”

Drugs and Medication

Since my son was born I am trying to keep very close to him and watch out for him but not suffocate him. I love it when my baby succeeds in something and then has that great shine in his eyes and applauses himself. I am feeling like a very happy mom. And then I have to think of all the dangers that could come to him. I am trying to figure out if it’s possible to make him make a mature choice.  I am thinking he should know to exclude one day drug consumption.

I guess our parents were concerned they would become early grandparents. I don’t mind that. I am an old mom anyway. Somehow I feel this idea of having a grandchild would save the 15 years wasted by me in building up wrong expectations. That is my generation. And also my generation has few people doing drugs in a serious way. They may be fearful or feeling the anarchy still happening around them, but the solution was not found in chemicals. I have never tried any drugs and nor did I have the curiosity to. I can’t really say I have a reason. It’s just that I was always super happy not to need any “help”.

What about kids today? They seem to get a lot more help than we did, a lot more entertainment and fun than we did, and yet they seem to be missing something. I can’t really help but be afraid of the danger represented by drugs.

My mom thought she would let me try smoking with her rather than be tempted by strangers. In spite of her teaching me early what it’s like, I did smoke for a while. Until one day I realised I can live without and be happier. I am happier not smoking. It’s been two years and I feel my whole life is going so much better without cigarettes. So, how would you train your kid not to try something you have no real argument for why they are harmful? I mean ok, I have a good argument in the people I have seen wasted in drugs, but then they would point out all the big celebrities who act, sing or dance and they consume. How do you actually tell your child Coca-Cola or Pepsi is simply too good compared to the drugs he may find easily around him?

I have to go back to the childhood years when going to the toilet during classes and finding two older girls doing drugs and I refused to join their fun. It was a decision I have made on my own without anyone telling me what is good or bad in drugs. And I simply followed my instinct. I have chosen also a partner in my “non-crime” and I am very proud of that. Why? Because I feel I reason with someone who has made the same choice as me in a different background. Means we think alike. I do hope our son will come to the same choices we have made without too much “Why?”.

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