Mama SRL

Dupa intoarcerea mea la munca, ne-am dat seama incet-incet ca fiul nostru era de fapt destul de pregatit sa intre intr-un grup social. Pentru varsta pe care o are asta inseamna cresa. Ne-am gandit de doua ori daca faceam alegerea potrivita sau nu. Inca mai cantaresc decizia, ca sa fiu sincera. De fapt in fiecare zi ma gandesc daca nu ar fi mai bine sa stau acasa si sa am grija de el pana merge la gradinita. Cumva pandemia a ajutat cu raspunsul la aceasta intrebare. Simt ca sunt avantaje de ambele parti, dar acum hai sa ne concentram pe cele referitoare la mersul la cresa. 

De cand l-am dus acolo am observat ca isi recunoaste familia foarte bine, dar ii accepta foarte usor si pe straini. Acolo are activitati zilnice. Interactioneaza cu alti copii si adulti.  Intr-o dimineata s-a dus la un bebelus care plangea sa incerce sa il ia in brate ca sa il consoleze. Apoi s-a dus la unul mai mare care la fel plangea si a incercat sa il faca sa se se opreasca. Acum arata emotii. Este cumva fericit sa vada alte jucarii, alte locuri de joaca, sa descopere noi provocari. Cand l-am dus la cresa era obisnuit cu straini, dar spre exemplu manca numai uitandu-se la tableta cu cantecele de gradinita. Aici a invatat sa manance fara asta. Ii place cand ii vede pe alti copii care mananca si simte nevoia sa faca si el la fel. El este bucuria noastra mica, dar el creste intr-un mic omulet. Trebuie sa vada alti oameni cu care se dezvolta si impreuna fac lucruri. El copiaza comportamente la aceasta varsta si cel mai bine pentru el este sa socializeze si sa vada activitati de copii, nu doar de adulti. Creierul lui inventeaza multe lucruri si uneori are si umor chiar de la varsta asta. Cresa il ajuta sa invete cum sa se obisinuiasca cu situatii noi si sa se adapteze provocarilor. Ii place sa urce si sa coboare scari, asa ca de ce sa nu exerseze si sa invete si mai multe lucruri?

In afara de joaca, mancat si interactiunea cu alti copii, a invatat si sa doarma in galagie. Imi era teama ca nu va dormi. Totusi imediat ce a vazut patuturile mici intinse pe jos era calare pe ele. Si-a preluat patutul si restul a fost destul de natural. Doarme la pranz si apoi vine acasa si simte nevoia sa faca si mai multe lucruri. Si atunci de jucam, citim si facem plimbari pe strada sau obisnuiam sa ne ducem la locul de joaca. Pandemia ne-a inchis cresa si exercitiul locurilor de joaca, deci acum petrecem mult timp impreuna. 

De asemenea experienta de la cresa m-a ajutat sa vad cum isi incepe dezvoltarea unei personalitati. Spre exemplu intr-o zi a ajutat educatoarea sa isi stranga margelutele de la o bratara rupta. Poate ca stiam in adancul inimii ca va fi asa, dar acum sunt sigura ca el se transforma in tanarul pe care mi-l doresc eu sa fie. Si asa e copilul meu cel fericit, care profita maxim de tot timpul lui treaz dezvoltandu-si creierul foarte mult. Acum va trebui sa vedem daca dupa o luna sau mai bine de pauza de la cresa va fi afectat cand revine, intrucat se invata cu noi amandoi sa fim mereu cu el acasa. Acum are atentia noastra deplina oricand are nevoie de ceva ceea ce il rasfata destul de tare. Asa ca incerc macar sa ii reproduc activitati similare cu cele de la cresa pentru a mentine amintirea cresei vie. In concluzie gasesc ca experienta de la cresa este una care poate fi numai benefica si abia astept sa se intoarca inapoi in grupa Furnicutelor.

After my returning to work, we slowly realised that our son was actually quite ready to enter a social group. That means daycare for his age group. We have thought twice if we were making the right choice or not. I am still pondering on that to be honest. Actually everyday I am thinking if it wouldn’t be better for me to stay home and take care of him until he is old enough to go to Kindergarten. Somehow the pandemics helped answer that question. I feel there are advantages on both side, but now let’s focus on the ones pro taking a kid to daycare. 

Since taking him there I noticed he recognizes family members, but embraces strangers also. There he has daily activities. He interacts with other kids and also adults. One morning he went and hugged a crying little baby to comfort him. He went then to a bigger one and tried to pet him for not crying anymore. He shows emotions now. He is somehow happy to see other toys, different playgrounds, to discover new challenges. When we took him to daycare he was used to other people, but for example he would only eat while watching the ipad play youtube songs. Now he learned to eat without that. He loves seeing other kids eat and then doing that too. He is our special bundle of joy, but he is growing into a little man. He needs to see other beings develop and do things. He copies behaviours at this age and it’s best for him to socialize and see kids act, not just adults. His brain is inventing a lot of things and has also humor at this age. Daycare helps him learn how to get used to new situations and adapt to challenges. He enjoys going up and down the stairs so why not let him practice and learn even more things. 

Besides playing, eating and interacting with other kids, he also learned to sleep under heavy noise. I was afraid he would not sleep. Still as soon as he saw the little beds laid down he was all over them. He took over his bed and the rest was quite easy. He sleeps at noon and then comes home and feels the need to do more stuff. That is when we play, read or take walks down the street or we used to go to the playground. Pandemics stopped our daycare and playground practice, so now we spend more time together. 

Also this daycare experience helps me watch how his personality develops. For example one day he helped the educator gather her beads from the ground as her bracelet broke. Maybe I knew he would be that way, but now I  am certain he is growing into the young man I would love him to be. And that’s my happy kid, always making so much of his wake time while his brain is developing so much. Now we will have to see how this one month break or even longer affects him as he is getting used to having both of us home. He has now our full attention whenever he needs something which makes him quite spoiled. So, I am trying to keep him with similar activities in order to save the memories of the daycare alive. As a conclusion I find the daycare experience as a good one and I can’t wait for him to return to his Ants group.