Mama SRL

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]I[/edgtf_dropcaps]n evolutia noastra ca oameni avem nevoie de lucruri diferite in functie de momente diferite. La fel se intampla si cu un copil. Si evident ca uneori pe masura ce creste descoperim alte lucruri care sunt mai bune decat ce foloseam pana atunci. Cand copilul nostru a implinit sase luni aveam deja schimbul doi de suzete si tetine, carucior, chiar doua carucioare. La douasprezece luni eram aproape pregatiti cu anumite lucruri. Deja apoi la optsprezece luni am fost ajutati de copil sa realizam ca trebuie sa schimbam ceva. Copilul incepe sa isi ceara singur schimbarile dupa varsta de 1 an. Cumva el e suficient de inteligent cat sa iti arate daca il deranjeaza ceva. Dintii il ajuta sa descopere daca ceva e in neregula sau trebuie inlocuit. Asa am ajuns la optsprezece luni sa realizam ca noi nu mai schimbasem de ceva vreme tetinele si suzetele copilului. Copilul nostru nu a ros tetine. Auzisem tot felul de povesti de la alti parinti ingroziti de facatura copilului si cumva asteptam sa ni se intample si noua asta. Totusi la noi nu s-a intamplat asa si mergeam mai departe fara a ne gandi de doua ori daca mai sunt bune sau nu. Aveam aceasta asteptare si nu am achizitionat pana cand nu am vazut ca cel mic se juca mai mult cu biberonul in loc sa bea laptele la culcare sau dimineata. Am trecut rapid la achizitia de tetine noi si copilul si-a revenit la bautul cu pofta din biberon. Cumva au si tetinele nevoie de improspatare, fiind din silicon. Probabil ca sterilizarea sau folosirea de lunga durata le afecteaza. Exista niste povesti referitoare la trecerea copilului de la biberon la canuta. Nestle a lansat chiar o canuta pe care copilul a agreat-o mult timp pentru baut apa din ea. Acum nu se mai omoara dupa ea dupa tentativa de a-i servi lapte din ea. Cumva copiii stiu singuri sa refuze daca nu le convine ceva. 

Spre exemplu suzetele le-am schimbat pentru ca ne-am dat seama ca anumite suzete nu le mai dorea. Are si el preferinte si asa am trecut de la Philips la Dr. Brown. Cele de la Dr. Brown au o forma anatomica a guritei lui si nu il deranjeaza in dezvoltarea dintilor. Avem grija cat mai tine suzeta si cand renunta la ea. Am decis sa il lasam pana termina cu eruptiile dentare intrucat altfel devine foarte iritat si aceasta ii ofera un confort placut in momentele dificile. 

Apoi scaunul de masa a fost modificat de la un nivel la altul in functie de criticile celui mic. Daca as fi luat instructiunile scaunului Nuna, copilul ar fi fost nefericit. Asa am decis sa il ascultam pe el. Spre exemplu, masuta atasata scaunului pe care sa manance nu a fost pe placul lui. El a vrut la masa cu noi. Doar e om mare in forma miniona. Glumesc! Dar cumva el asa se comporta. Acum ne gandeam daca sa concediem scaunul de masa si sa folosim un fel de inaltator cu centuri de siguranta. Copilul nu agreaza prea tare sa fie tratat ca un copil. Avem un adult printre noi si tocmai de aceea am decis sa ii respectam aceasta decizie. Scaunul de masa a fost detestat pana am scos masuta cu care venise scaunul si am pus puiul de om la masa cu noi. Atunci a prins personalitate si brusc scaunul era chiar placut. Acum scaunul prezinta multiple resturi prin toate incheieturile pentru ca nu stim inca sa mancam ordonat, dar este parte din ritualul de masa. Apreciaza si orgoliul meu ca sta copilul pe scaunul scump achizitionat, dar sunt convinsa ca le agreeaza si pe restul modelelor. Puteti sa nu aruncati cu banii pe fereastra inutil. Chiar scaunul de masa este unul din acele lucruri pe care nu trebuie a aruncati banii. 

Uneori investitia prea rapida in anumite lucruri nu a dat roade. Spre exemplu GB pockit All Terrain este cel mai practic pentru parinti cand calatoresc cu avionul. Dar daca vrei ceva pentru oras, trebuie sa inveti sa ramai la primul si singurul carucior (2 sau 3 in 1). Acesta a fost cumva un moft de-al meu de a avea un carut mic si compact pentru a-l deschide din masina/geanta pentru copil. De fapt copilul nu a prea agreat mersul cu el la plimbari. La munte All Terrain s-a dovedit inutil. Pozitia copilului in el nu este deloc buna pentru coloana. Aceasta a fost o investitie inutila.

Sticlute de baut apa: aici am achizitionat dintr-o pasiune personala toate modelele dragute si interesante de canute si cescute si pahare. Fiul meu a decis ca este om mare si bea din sticla ca noi sau din cana sau pahar. Canutele au fost o investitia foarte proasta. Poate mai tarziu voi trai si eu cu un sentiment de impacare daca va incepe sa le foloseasca. 

Bolurile de mancare si linguritele au fost si ele declarate inutile de la inceput. As fi vrut sa merg cu copilul in parc si sa mancam impreuna o gustare scoasa din pachet. Nu a existat asa ceva. Fiul meu si-a dorit sa manance singurel banana, sa aiba sortimente de mancare pe care sa le manance cu manutele lui. Pana si supa a descoperit ca o poate manca singur: a baut zeama cu cana si a mancat continutul bucatica cu bucatica. Ii merge senzational si ma bucur sa il vad asa hotarat si independent, desi investitiile raman acolo in dulap. 

Scaunul de masina: aici trebuie doar avut grija la pozitia copilului mai ales in primele sase luni de viata. Multa lume recomanda scoica. Acum pot sa spun ca am testat scoica si copilul nu sta bine in ea. Sta mult mai bine intr-un scaun de masina gandit sa fie si pentru 0-6 luni. Recomandarea doctorilor este sa nu mearga cu masina in drumuri lungi in primele luni de viata. Dar daca totusi exista drumuri de facut e minunat sa avem un scaun de masina robust pentru prima perioada. Noi am luat unul pentru 0-24 luni de la Joie si apoi inca unul pentru a doua masina de 6-36 luni numit Bastian Lionelo. Cel de-al doilea este o varianta foarte buna pentru calaroriile scurte in oras. Copilul sta si vede bine pe geam. Primul este foarte solid si sta foarte bine in el la drum lung daca nu se plictiseste si aici nu avem ce face. 

Patutul de joaca: am achizitionat unul de 1x1m de la Lionelo pe care ulterior l-am transformat in patut pentru voiaj. Pentru joaca a fost minunat caci copilul se ridica singur pe marginile lui, apoi se plimba in voie. Uneori se urca si se cobora din el daca avea usita deschisa. Apoi a devenit un patut de voiaj si i-am adaugat o saltea suplimentara in patut pentru ca altfel nu e foarte confortabil. Salteaua e de la http://www.puidesomn.ro si e facuta pe comanda cu invelis de lana si acoperita cu bumbac. Acum pentru joaca are masuta si scaunelul lui de la Ikea si e foarte fericit.

Si ultimul lucru intrat pe lista de necesitati este periuta de dinti. Aceasta are multiple forme si initial am achizitionat un set cu trei niveluri de evolutie, apoi am achizitionat o periuta Curasept cum avem toti in familie, apoi am luat una electrica. In final copilul este foarte fericit cu periuta mea electrica, deci doar un cap de rezerva a mai fost necesar si joaca e pornita. E o joaca pentru ei la varsta asta, dar invata vazandu-ne pe noi ca facem asta. Noi adultii ne spalam pe dinti dimineata deci vor si ei sa faca la fel. 

Regula de baza este sa nu va obisnuiti cu copilul prin preajma si sa il lasati sa traiasca cu obiectele cu care este obisnuit. La vreo 2 luni ale copilului aveam deja o lista cu ce trebuie modificat la urmatorul pas de 6 luni. Urmeaza 12 luni si 18 luni. Suzetele sunt foarte importante de schimbat nu numai din motive de curatenie, dar si pentru ca el creste cu totul. Gura si dintisorii si intregul lui corp creste deci si lucrurile pe care le foloseste trebuie sa fie adaptate, nu doar hainutele. Dar din descrierea de mai sus exista si lectia obiectelor inutile sau nejustificat de scumpe pe care nu trebuie sa va grabiti sa le achizitionati. 

Baby Things

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]I[/edgtf_dropcaps]n our evolution as human beings we need different things at different moments. Same happens with a kid’s evolution. And obviously that sometimes as we grow we discover some things are better than what we were using. When our baby was six months old we were prepared already with the second bunch of pacifiers and bottles, stroller, even two strollers. At twelve months old we were almost ready with certain things. Later at eighteen months we got help from the kid to realize we needed to make a change. The kid is beginning to claim his changes after turning 1 year old. Somehow he is smart enough to show you if something bothers him. Teeth help him discover if something is wrong or needs replacement. This is how we came to see at eighteen months that we haven’t changed the teats of his bottles and pacifiers for quite some time. Our kid has not chewed on teats. We heard all sort of stories from other terrified parents of their kid’s deed and somehow we were expecting the same to happen to us. Still it didn’t happen and we were carrying on not thinking for a second if they were still good or not. We had this expectation that they would become used and we did not buy new ones until we noticed he was playing with the bottle more than drinking his milk in the morning or in the evening. We quickly went and bought new ones. And the baby was again enjoying his bottle. Somehow teats need replacement as they are silicon. Probably sterilizing them frequently or heavy usage affects their integrity. There are stories saying that the baby should go to drinking from the cup at 1 year old. Nestle has a promotional cup which my kid loved for drinking water then he forgot about it after we tried feeding his the evening milk from it. Somehow kids know best what is right for them.

For example the pacifiers we changed because we realized he did not like anymore some of the pieces. He developed his own preference so we went from Philips to Dr. Brown. The ones from Dr. Brown have a rather anatomical shape and it doesn’t seem to bother his teething. He loves this Dr. Brown. We will see how he develops further and when he forgets about it. We decided to allow him till he has overcome the teething period as otherwise he is very irritated by the pains and this object gives him a very nice comfort.

Next thing was the high chair which was modified from one level to another depending on the little one’s critics. Had I taken only the instructions the chair came with, the baby would have been terribly unhappy. So we decided to listen to his demands. For example the table attached to the chair that babies eat on, was not to his liking. He wanted to join us at our table. He is a grown up man in a small size. I am kidding! But he is behaving as if he is such. Now we were thinking of firing the high chair and use only the riser with safety belts. The kid does not like very much to be treated as a kid. We have an adult among us and that is why we decided to respect that. The high chair was highly hated until we removed the additional plastic table and we have put the little man at the table. Then he became very important and the high chair was loved. Now the chair has multiple food remains because we are not yet used to eating like a grownup. But I like the fact that he stays on the expensive chair. He would like any other high chair also. You can save your money and not buy expensive ones. The high chair is something you can go for the cheap version.

Sometimes the quick investment in certain things does not pay of. For example GB pockit All Terrain is most practical for parents travelling by plane. If you are looking for something for the city, you have to learn to stick to the first and only necessary stroller (2 or 3 in 1). The GB was somehow a personal caprice to have a small and compact stroller to quickly open up for the kid. Actually the kid did not really enjoy it. And in the mountains All Terrain proved useless as it gets stuck in the smallest whole. Also, the position of the baby is not good at all for the baby’s spine.

Sipping cups – this is a personal passion so I have bought all sorts of models nice and interesting: bottles, cups, sipping cups, handles for older bibs. My son has decided he is a grown man and drinks from the bottle just like us or from the mug or glass. Cups were definitely a bad investment. Maybe later I will live to see him use them.

Eating bowls and utensils were also declared useless from the beginning. I was dreaming of going with my baby in the park and enjoying a snack together. We didn’t have that. My son wanted to eat on his own the banana, to have variations of food he can eat with his own hands. Even the soup he discovered he can eat on his own: he sips the liquid and he is eating the vegetables one by one. He is an extraordinary kid and I am glad to see him so determined and independent, so the investments are saved for later in the cupboard.

The baby car seat: this is something you need to be careful about as he needs good positioning in the first 6 months. Many people recommend the shell car seat. I can tell you we have tried that but the baby did not fit properly. He is better in a car seat properly built for 0-6 months also. Doctors recommend the baby does not travel in the car during his first months of life. If you must travel with the baby it’s best to do it on short distances and have a very solid car seat for the first period of life. We got a Joie 0-24 months and then another one fron Bastian Lionelo which goes up to 36 months. The second one is perfect for this period (18 months) and short voyages. The baby can watch out the window. First one is solid and the baby is well positioned for long drives. Unless he gets bored on the long drives, he is perfectly fine in this option and we can’t help the boredom.

The kid’s playground: we bought a simple Lionelo 1x1m which later became a sort of travel bed. For play it was excelent as the baby would rise himself to the margins and then walk around. Sometimes he would get into it and come out of it as it has a special door. Nowadays it’s a travel bed with an added customised mattress from http://www.puidesomn.ro. We have added this as it made it comfortable and breathable. It’s padded with wool and covered in cotton. Perfect for a little one and just like his home bad. These days his playground is made out of Ikea table and chair where he plays happily with his toys.

Last thing on the necessary things is the tooth brush. This has multiple types so we first got a set with three options based on his age. Then we got a Curasept one as we all own such a toothbrush, of course his is for kids. Then we got an electric version. Finally the kid is happy with my electric one, so only an extra head was necessary and the play is on. It’s a game for them at this age, but they learn as they watch us do stuff. If we brush our teeth in the morning, then they will want to do the same.

Main thing is not to get used to the baby and not to let him live with the usual things. I have made a list when he was about 2 months old with all the things that needed to be adjusted once 6 months. Also, 12 and 18 months. His pacifier is very important to be changed. Not just for cleaning reasons, but also because he is growing as a whole. His mouth and his teeth and his whole body is growing. Also things need to be adjusted, not just the clothes. But from the description above there are also useless objects which need no rush to buy.