Mama SRL

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]R[/edgtf_dropcaps]egimurile totalitare nu ar fi putut supravietui daca nu erau suficienti sustinatori si increzatori. Pentru ca de obicei este asa: autoritatea, cei care se supun si ceva opozitie. Dintre cei care se supun unii ar trebui sa raporteze abateri autoritatii. Si a fost o perioada indelungata in care romanii au aratat cu degetul spre „informatori”. Dar am facut un calcul intr-o zi in capul meu si am realizat ca e inutil sa aratam cu degetul spre asa ceva si ca vom ajunge sa aratam cu degetul spre membri ai familiei. Matematica comunismului imi spune ca cel putin jumatate din populatie raportau despre vecinii sau chiar membri familiei catre partid. Si nu are sens sa gasesti pe cineva apropiat care desconsidera felul in care traiesti sau sa il interpreteze cumva intr-o nota catre o autoritate suprema. E mai bine sa lasam lucrurile asa. Si familia mea a facut fix asta. Si admir asta! Nu are sens sa gasesti acel membru guraliv al familiei.  

Hai sa ne uitam la Liban, care este un exemplu perfect de razboaie stupide care au tarat tara prin ani buni de framantari violente. Acolo aceasta metoda a parei functioneaza chiar daca nu se duce la politie sa te spuna, ci doar te barfeste cu vecinul. E o matematica a comunismului, desi nu au comunism. Nu avem nevoie de asa ceva. Avem nevoie sa iertam si sa uitam si sa depasim aceasta etapa din istorie. In fond, fiecare din noi profita de cineva care stia pe cineva si care servea unui scop. Am facut cu totii asta cel putin o data, va rog sa va recunoasteti macar in sine asta. Inca o facem. Motivul aducerii acestui subiect in discutie in aceste zile este tocmai pentru ca parintii si bunicii nostri inca au aceasta mentalitate: stiu pe cineva care poate sa ma ajute cu ceva ilegal. Nu avem nevoie de asta acum. Ne tinem sanatosi stand in casa. De ce avem nevoie sa scoatem sau sa bagam ceva in casa? Exista ceva ce ne lipseste? Nu cred asta.

Cum zilele astea trebuie sa ii tinem pe cei in varsta in casa si sa fie in siguranta, le vom explica despre matematica de mai sus si despre faptul ca a elimina regulile ii poate rani pe ei insisi. Iti trantesc replica aia cu „ei si-au trait viata, pot sa moara”. Sunt incapatanati si vor sa iasa, sa se plimbe, sa se bucure de lucrurile simple in viata. Amuzant e ca viata lor de zi cu zi se leaga mereu de o nevoie consumerista. Bineinteles, ca ii putem lasa in pace, dar sarmanii medici vor lupta pentru vietile lor. Incerc sa ii inteleg si sa ma gandesc ca poate si-au trait majoritatea vietii sunt legi totalitare si ultimii treizeci de ani le-a adus o anume libertate pe care nu stiu sa o aprecieze impreuna cu niste reguli de bun simt.

Referitor la resurse a trecut atat de mult timp de cand in casa nu ne-am trezit pur si simplu fara o resursa incat putem sa ne bucuram de aceasta gura de aer proaspat. Si ca sa fiu sincera aceasta nebunie cu pregatirile de Paste ma face sa devin si mai iritata. Personal, am cea mai buna forma fizica dupa foarte mult timp. Coloana mea incepe sa se intinde si imi construiesc corpul pe care il aveam pe vremuri. Gatesc, citesc, scriu si petrec timp cu copilul meu. Si lui ii plac toate activitatile pe care le facem impreuna. Adora sa imi puna intrebari si imi place sa ii raspund chiar si de o mie de ori, daca e nevoie. Adora masinile si vehiculele, adora sa descopere orice e nou.  Se plictiseste in timpul zilei cand stam in casa, dar gaseste ceva de facut prin casa. Ai idee cat am fi ratat daca am fi fost la munca zilele astea ca in zilele normale?

Revenind la cei care dadeau raportul partidului comunist, va dati seama ca acei tipi, peste treizeci de ani, sunt in prezent pensionari? Unii dintre acesti baieti buni au pensii chiar mari. Si de fapt asta ne deranjeaza pe unii dintre noi. Ganditi-va pentru o clipa ca luptam gresit cu sistemul. Putem sa ii gasim pe aceia cu pensii mari si sa cerem ca daca au facut rau altor cetateni prin faptele sale sa le fie reduse pensiile. Dar traim intr-o lume in care nu vrem sa deranjam pe nimeni. Nu vrem sa facem rau, nu vrem sa folosim plastic, dar folosim, ne laudam despre poluare si totusi zburam de ataea ori si poluam atat de mult. Trebuie sa fim mai atenti pe cauza si efect. Trebuie sa ne amintim matematica mentionata mai sus se referea poate chiar la un apropiat. A, si iata cateva exemple mentionate mai sus: vrem sa parem corecti moral, drepti, dar de fapt suntem la fel de stricati ca cei pe care ii blamam. Este destul de enervant sa primim sentimentul ca toata lumea te intreaba daca ai nevoie de ajutor cand stii ca ar fugi cat ar putea de repede din fata ta. Asta e de fapt lumea in care traim. Mereu pretindem ca suntem cineva care de fapt nu suntem.

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]T[/edgtf_dropcaps]otalitarian regimes could not survive unless there were not enough supporters and believers. So it usually is like this: the authority, the ones obeying the rules and some opposition. Out of the ones obeying the regimes some would need to report to the higher authority. And it was very long that the Romanians have pointed out to the “informers”.  I did the math one day in my head and realised it is useless to point the finger to this and that as it would turn fingers also against family members. Communist Maths tell me that at least half of the people were reporting about their neighbors or even family members to the party. And there is no use in finding out someone close to you was disregarding your way of living and interpreting it somehow in a note to the higher authority. It’s better to let some things be. And my family has done just that. I admire that! It makes no sense in trying to find that vocative family member. 

Let’s take Lebanon, for example, which is a perfect example of such stupid wars and the country is constantly under turmoil. They are telling on each other even if it’s not for the police, it’s more about bitching. This is an example of the communist maths although the regim is not communist at all. We don’t need that. We need to forgive and forget and get over this piece of history. After all, each one of us was taking advantage of someone that knew someone and that helped our purpose. We have all done that at least once, please admit that to yourself. We are still doing it. The reason this subject is reiterating in my mind these days, is especially because our parents and grandparents have still that mentality: I know someone who can do something for me. We don’t need that right now. We are keeping ourselves safe by staying inside. Why do we need to smuggle something? Is there really something we are missing? I don’t believe so.

As these days we need to keep the old people inside in order to keep them safe, we should explain to them about the math above and the fact that trying to cut the authority is only bringing harm to themselves. They give you that line with „they have lived their lives, they are ok with dying”. They are stubborn and they want to go out, walk the park, enjoy the simple things in life. Funny enough, their everyday life is always related to a consumerist need. Of course, we could let them be, but the poor doctors will fight to save their lives. I am trying to understand them and think that maybe they lived most of their lives under the authoritarian rules and the past thirty years has brought them a certain freedom which they don’t know how to appreciate together with the rules of common sense.

It’s been so long since our house resources actually finished up that we can only enjoy this breathe of fresh air. And to be honest this whole madness with Easter prep is making me even more irritated. Personally I have the best fit shape since a very long time. My spine is beginning to stretch and I am building up the body I used to have. I am cooking, reading, writing, spending time dancing with my kid. And he really loves all the activities we do together. He loves asking questions and I love giving him answers a thousand times, if necessary. He loves cars and vehicles, he loves to discover anything that’s new, he gets bored during the days when we stay in, but he finds something to do around the house. Do you have any idea how much we’d be missing out if we were at work these days just like our everyday lives?

Coming back to the ones reporting to the communist party, do you also realize that those guys, 30 years later, are currently the pensioners? Some of these good fellas are having big pensions. And that is actually what bothers some of us. Please consider for a second we are fighting the system in a wrong manner. We can find those with special pensions and claim if they did harm to other citizens, then their merit pensions should, at least by a moral decision, be diminished. But we leave in a world where we don’t want to bother anyone. We don’t want to harm, we don’t want to use plastic, but we do, we brag about pollution and yet we fly so many times and pollute so much. We need to be more focused on the cause and effect. We need to remember the math above was actually referring maybe even to a close one. Ah, and there comes the few examples mentioned above: we want to seem someone moral correct, righteous, but we are actually just as rotten as the ones we are blaming. It’s pretty annoying to get the feeling of everyone asking you if you need help when you know they would run like hell from you. This is actually the world we are living in. We are always pretending to be someone we are not.