Mama SRL

Pentru a duce lucruri la bun sfarsit, cand nu ai sefi sau termene limita, e nevoie de o auto disciplina. Scriitorii au fost mereu oameni care lucreaza mult de acasa si care sunt destul de izolati. E nevoie de o auto disciplina ca sa poata termina ceva. A tine pe toata lumea in casa prin masuri autoritare poate provoca oamenii in feluri diferite. Poate nu toti vor accepta cu supunere masurile. Unii vor incerca sa fie rebeli. Eu am incercat sa ma supun si sa imi impun o auto disciplina. Trebuie sa spun ca cel mai bun lucru despre aceasta perioada este ca imi manageriez singura timpul meu: gatit, scris, pus intrebari, urmarirea dezvoltarii copilului meu, etc. Masurile care necesita distantare sociala ma ajuta sa stau acasa si sa lucrez de acasa in orele mele. Pentru o mai buna disciplina am invatat sa imi construiesc singura propriul program si sa ma tin de el. Deci iata cateva trucuri pentru politici de a munci sanatos si a sta acasa.

In primul rand alegi o ora de trezire. La inceput eram fericita sa ma trezesc la ora 08:00. Dar imediat ce am realizat ca fiul meu se trezea un pic mai devreme de atat si ca imi lasa foarte putin timp pentru mine, mi-am setat ceasul pentru ora 07:00. Bineinteles ca nu toate diminetile sunt potrivite pentru acea ora de trezire. Lucrez pana la 00:00 sau chiar 01:00AM asa ca orele mele de somn sunt in general 6 sau 7 pe noapte. Asta se dovedeste a fi dificil pentru toata lumea. Dar cu o buna disciplina ridurile mele se micsoreaza, creierul meu functioneaza mai bine, corpul meu se simte minunat. Mi-as dori sa imi pastrez aceasta disciplina chiar si dupa reinceperea muncii. In prezent principala mea preocupare este sa scriu si sa dezvolt idei personale. Bineinteles ca astea urmeaza grijii pe care o am fata de copilul meu. De cand a inceput autoizolarea am decis ca nu are sens sa ma mai pierd in nimicuri, ci mai bine sa am grija de cel mic. A devenit un pic rasfatat, dar si creste si intelege unde greseste. Micutul meu e deja mare!

Astfel ca dimineata dupa ce verific retelele de socializare si actualizari ale site-ului, trec la rutina celui mic: lapte, schimbat si la joaca. In toata aceasta auto disciplina, nu uit sa am grija si de rutina mea de dimineata. Chiar si atunci il am pe cel mic in preajma mea, dar asta nu ma deranjeaza. Este amuzant cum incearca mereu sa inteleaga „stilul adult”. Apoi tatal lui se trezeste si pot eu sa incep sa ii prepar hrana inainte sa il iau la plimbarea de dimineata. Plimbarea lui de dimineata este si plimbarea mea. Mentin un pas alert si ajung la niste obiective interesante pentru cel mic, cautand ca in fiecare zi sa fie cat mai diferite. Spre exemplu, lui ii plac camioanele si masinile, santierele si masinile de gunoi. Deci in fiecare plimbare trebuie sa bifeze cate ceva din astea si ii place sa ma intrebe lucruri. Cred ca si eu invat o data cu el despre constructii si masini. Astazi mi-a aratat o masina care avea un alt tip de culoare fata de restul masinii. Luati-o pe asta! Explicati bunul gust al copilului!

Deci dupa o ora si ceva de mers alert ne intoarcem acasa unde isi ia pranzul si apoi se joaca un pic si merge la somn. Acele doua-trei ore de munca sunt momentele mele de scris in care „fac lucrurile sa se intample”. Apuc sa scriu, sa ma gandesc la strategii pentru site si retele de socializare si sa ma ocup de planuri ulterioare. Munca mea de productie este momentan in standby. Filmarile abia se repornesc. E nevoie de auto disciplina si pentru a-mi pastra mintea in functiune.

O data ce copilul meu se trezeste dupa-amiaza imi cere sa petrec timp cu el. Si ne jucam si gatim impreuna, iar dupa ce mai ia o gustare iesim din nou afara. De data asta el merge pe jos si eu il tin de manuta. Am mai scris despre miracolul tinerii lui de manuta.

Apoi ne intoarcem in casa si continuam sa ne jucam. Ziua lui se termina la 8:30 cu baita, poveste si apoi somn. Dupa ce il bag la somn ma reapuc de treburile mele. Si in cele din urma adorm. Poate nu pare credibil, dar sunt foarte productiva cu aceasta auto disciplina. Am nevoie de o asemenea auto disciplina ca sa nu resimt panica unui univers indepartat in care ne vom intoarce la normal.

[edgtf_dropcaps type=”normal” color=”#d6a67c” background_color=””]W[/edgtf_dropcaps]e need self discipline to make things happen. Writers have always been people who work a lot from home and in isolation. It takes a very strict self discipline to finish something. Holding everyone locked in their houses through totalitarian measures may challenge people in different ways. Maybe not all will accept to obey the measures. Some will try to be rebellious. I have tried to obey and to impose a self discipline. The best thing about this time is that I finally get to manage my own time: cooking, writing, asking questions, discovering my baby’s evolution, etc. Measures requiring social distancing help me stay home and work in my own hours. I have learned to build my own schedule and stick to it. So here are my survival tips for a healthy work and stay home politics. 

First of all please pick a wake up time. At first I was happy to have 8:00 as wakeup time. But soon I realised my baby was waking up a bit earlier than that and that left me little time for myself. So I set my clock for 7:00. Of course not all mornings are good for that wake up time. I work till 00:00 or even 01:00 AM so my sleep hours are mostly 6 or 7 hours per night. That makes it all very tough on anyone. However with a good discipline my wrinkles are shrinking, my brain works excellent, my body feels great. I would love to have this discipline even after work is restarting. At the moment my main concern is writing and developing personal ideas. Of course that is after taking care of my baby. Since the pandemics lockdown I have decided it made no sense in focusing on silly things, but rather take care of the little one. He became a bit spoiled, but he is also growing and understanding where he is making a mistake. Grown little man of mine! 

After my checking of social media and website updates, I get on with the little one’s routine: milk, change and off to play. Then I take care of my morning routine. And that is when I have him around me. I don’t mind. He is fun and always trying to understand “the grownup way”. Then his daddy wakes up and I can start preparing his food before taking him for the morning stroll. His morning stroll is my power walk. I keep a fast pace and reach some interesting objectives for the baby everyday. That means he likes for example big trucks and cars, construction sites or garbage cars. So with each encounter he likes to ask me questions. I believe I am also learning with him about construction and cars. Today he showed me a car that had a different type of front colour from the rest of the car. Dig that! Explain the good taste to the kid!

So after the 1 hour and something power walk we come back home where he has his lunch and then play a bit and then go to sleep. Those two-three hours of work are my moment of making things happen. I get to write, think of strategy for the website and social media and deal with future plans. My work has been currently put on hold due to some misinterpreted measures. Shooting productions are just slowly restarting.

Once my kid is up he asks me to spend time with him. And we play or cook together. And he has another bite and we go out. This time he walks and i get to hold his hand. I already wrote an article about the miracle of holding his little hand. 

Then we get back into the house and we continue our play. His day ends with 8:30 bathtub and then sleep. After putting him to sleep I get to work on my stuff. And then I fall asleep. This is all my day stuff. And believe it or not, I am very productive. 

I am a normal person who doesn’t want to throw money out the window on useless stuff or to feed my ego. I am too cheap, although some may mildly put it as, moderate, to give money to some brands. Handmade, true, but still my priorities have always been to keep a normal status. I wish to pass that normality on to my kid.

Still I enjoyed spending money on such sometimes. Actually, to be honest, I have made some mistakes in my young years and then I have learned the importance of saving money more than the „social status”. And I have not made a mistake as with every crises I had the security of tomorrow. I cannot say I don’t adore Chanel, but I have looked at myself in the mirror and concluded that I am not that tall and skinny as a model, so I would hate being called „the little chubby one wearing brands”. And still I have some purchased or received things. I have fired them during these days and I am thinking only that by the time they will be taken out of the close if I will still feel the need to get them out.