Am crescut in timpul regimului comunist. Pentru cei mai tineri, societatea aceea nu avea puncte slabe: nu aveau loc violuri, nu existau spargeri, nu existau oameni bolnavi, nu exista invaliditate. A fi surd sau cu orice alta dizabilitate fizica te facea inexistent in societate. Totusi, acele in zile securitatea iti patrundea in casa si nimeni nu ar fi vorbit despre asta. Si tatal meu incerca sa imi explice cu blandete despre invaliditate.

Asa ca a gasit exemplu acest roman numit “Bruta”, unde un tanar care era surd, orb si mut este acuzat ca a omorat un om. Aceasta “bruta” isi ascutise simturile pentru a supravietui in lume.

Si intregul scop al conversatiei era ca tatal meu sa imi explica cum cei cu invaliditati nu sunt mai prejos decat noi, dar uneori pot fi chiar mai buni cu simturile lor ascutite. Si m-a cam pus pe ganduri: ce pot invata de la acesti oameni? Asa ca imi imaginam in copilarie cum e.

In prima parte am dormit cu niste lumini aprinse, dar apoi a trebuit sa le stingem si sa ma descurc pe intuneric, fara sa fac galagie. Am invatat sa ma descurc pe intuneric cu tot felul de sarcini: sa pregatesc laptele, sa dibuiesc temperatura corecta pentru biberon, sa schimb scutece si asa mai departe.

Astazi incluziunea celor cu handicap este tot mai prezenta, iar fiul meu va trai niste vremuri mult mai relaxate.

Ultimul catalog Ikea are in familie un copil cu sindrom Down. Exista o actrita surdo-muta care face deja cariera de ani buni in seriale tv. Exista si o actrita celebra de la Hollywood cu sindrom Turner. Norocul lui este ca nu va judeca acesti oameni pentru ca ii va percepe ca fiind egali avand atatea exemple in jurul lui.

Iar provocarea noastra va fi sa incercam sa fim la fel de buni sau mai buni ca ei. Daca ne antrenam corpurile si mintea, suntem niste fiinte extraordinare! Trebuie doar sa incercam sa ne depasim niste limite!


I grew up during the communist regim. For the younger ones, that society had no weak point: had no rapes, no burglaries, there were no sick people, there was no invalidity. Being def or with any other physical disability made you invisible to the society. Yet, in those days the secret service would break into your house and no one would talk about it. And my dad would explain me gently about invalidity.

So he found as an example this novel called “Brute”, where a young man who is def, blind and mute is accused for having killed a man. This “brute” had sharpened his functional senses to survive in the world.

And the whole purpose of the conversation was that he would explain to me outside the political context what physically challenged means. They are not below us, but sometimes they may be even better than us with their sharpened senses. And it kind of made me think: what can I learn from these people? So I was imagining what would it be like to be deaf or blind and try to sharpen my feeling sense. It was a very silly game for a little girl.

Today the inclusion of those different is more present and my son will live more relaxed times.

Still once my baby came home I had to learn use those sharpened skills. At first we slept with the lights on, but then we had to turn them off and I had to get through the dark and without making noises. I learned to do a lot of stuff in the dark (prepare the milk, have a sense of water temperature, change the diapers and so on).

The latest Ikea catalog has in the family photo one girl with the Down syndrome. There is a def and mute actress who is for years building up a career in tv series. There is also a famous Hollywood actress with Turner syndrome. My kid’s luck is that he will not judge such people because he will perceive them as being his equal since he sees so many natural examples.

The challenge will be to try and be better or as good as such people. If we train our bodies and minds, we are amazing beings! We just have to try to outbound the boundaries!

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